Imperial Realm BDSM Programs and Services

BDSM is a catch-all acronym for the most commonly explored kinks Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, Sadism, and Masochism.

It covers a lot of ground, but realistically with BDSM you can pick which bits you do or do not want to explore.

The textbook definition of a kink is an unconventional sexual preference or behavior. However, some kinks are asexual.

That means that kinks are subjective because one person's kinky is another person's normal, and kink is not always about sex.

A fetish is sexual arousal caused by a specific thing, such as an object or a body part.

However, there is a lot of cross-over between a kink and a fetish.

D/s is an acronym for Dominance and submission. We use this acronym to describe the relationship and the power dynamic between dominant and submissive partners.

Not all dominants or submissives have good intentions. Therefore, it is vitally important to know what to look out for when it comes to D/s, just like you would in the vanilla world.

Sadism and Masochism (or sadomasochism for those who enjoy it all) are the practice of inflicting or enduring pain for sexual pleasure.

However, this does not mean that sex is involved, and there is a difference between hurting someone and harming someone, which means S&M can take on a lot of unique forms that include physical, emotional, and mental.

There are commonly used acronyms for dynamics like D/s, T/b, and S/m. For philosophical approaches to kink, there are acronyms like SSC, RACK, and PRICK. There are even acronyms for the type of play you might be involved in, like CNC and TPE. The list of all the possible acronyms out there is endless.

Kinksters love a good set of acronyms and terms. We are pleased to provide a dictionary that helps kinksters learn the meaning of each acronym and term.

You can find the meaning of various acronyms and terms in our BDSM Dictionary and our BDSM Resource Center.

Kink and BDSM are more common than most people might think. Unfortunately, it is the societal expectations of "normal" and "shameful" that keep kink and BDSM a more semi-underground movement.

While there is a lot of BDSM and kink-themed porn out there, kink lifestyles are much more than just porn on a website, video, or even a story.

The short answer to this is both yes and no. While safety is a core aspect of BDSM for all of those involved, some activities are inherently unsafe. Therefore, everyone involved in BDSM-related activities needs to understand the risks associated with any activity you want to enjoy.

Some types of play have a higher risk, so the safety level of BDSM comes down to the risk profile of the individuals involved.

The legality of kink and BDSM largely depends on where you live. Kink and BDSM remain outlawed in most countries, and the question of whether kink and BDSM are good or bad remains prevalent across the world.

Additionally, poor representation by the media paints a dire picture of kink and BDSM. However, there is a lot of hard work going on around the world to decriminalize many kinky acts.

If you have questions about the legality in your jurisdiction, we encourage you to consult with a qualified attorney or barrister.

Negotiation in BDSM is not as intimidating as it may sound. Negotiation is a discussion between the dominant and submissive, which establishes what each party hopes to get out of a scene, what the limits of the dominant and submissive are, how the aftercare routine is structured, and covers things such as safewords, medical issues, etc.

You can negotiate through the means you are most comfortable with. Some of the most common ways are in person, over the phone, by text message, using a Google Document, etc.

Limits are acts or behaviors that a kinkster has defined as an unacceptable practice for them. This is something they usually either will not do or will not have done to them.

A soft limit means that a kinkster is open to trying a kink or fetish. Likewise, a hard limit means that it is something the kinkster will never agree to do.

Consent is a fundamental aspect of kink and BDSM. While consent is about agreeing to something, limits are something to be respected by all kinksters involved in the play or scene.

A safeword is a gesture, word, or phrase that tells the other person you need to slow down or stop a scene. You should never feel bad about needing to use a safeword to either slow down or stop a scene.

The use of a safeword in a scene is both a healthy and responsible thing to do in the event the scene becomes intense to a point where the well-being of either kinkster becomes an issue, which includes safety.

Some kinksters use the traffic light approach or hand gestures, while others use a random word such as "apple" or have a squeaky toy in their hand.

However you choose to use safewords, you and your partner must be clear on what they are and what they mean.

Aftercare is what you need after a scene ends to assist you in returning to a more grounded state.

Aftercare is something that you should negotiate before a BDSM activity begins. Regardless of what side of an activity a kinkster might be on, aftercare will always look different for each individual.

Also known as the "left side of the slash", the D-type role gives up control either in a scene or an entire dynamic.

Often presented in uppercase, the D-type role includes Dominant, Dom, Domme, Top, Sadist, Mommy, Daddy, Caregiver, Master, Mistress, Owner, and a whole host of other roles.

Also known as the "right side of the slash", the s-type role gives up control either in a scene or an entire dynamic.

Often presented in lowercase, the s-type role includes submissive, bottom, masochist, little, pet, slave, and a whole host of other roles.

There are a lot of roles, from Dominant to submissive, Top to bottom, all the way through to pony, spanko, prey, and many more.

Those in the D-type roles are known as the "left side of the slash", and those in the s-type roles are known as the "right side of the slash". Some roles, like switches, often fall "outside of the slash".

Finding the kink role that fits you can be a continual journey.

Kinksters have many different opinions on what makes a Dominant or a submissive. But the reality is whether you are a Dominant or a submissive is something that comes naturally to you. We cannot train you to be something that isn't part of you.

We can provide you with classes, tools, and resources that can help you harness the natural dominant or submissive within you to make your kink even more enjoyable for you and your partner.

If you would like to learn more about our training programs, you can visit our BDSM Training Programs page.

You can also find resources through our BDSM Resource Center.

You can learn about kinks and whether any of them call to you. However, there is no specific class on how to be kinky.

If you are unsure whether or not you are kinky, try adding some kink to your sex life and see if that gets those engines roaring within you.

It is important to remember that being kinky is not a bad thing.

All you have to do is decide whether you need to keep your kinks private or you can open up about them. Once you make this decision, the road to your kinky adventure holds endless fun for you!

It depends on what you want to know about your partner.

The questions you must ask yourself are:

1. Do you want to learn more about satisfying your partner's kinks?
2. Or are you interested in whether they are open to exploring your kinks?

You can find helpful information on these questions in our BDSM Resource Center.

Absolutely! We are constantly updating and adding new information to our BDSM programs and services and our BDSM resource center.

Our BDSM Services and BDSM Resource Center will have all kinds of information to assist you in your kinky adventures.

If you find something that might be missing or have a question, please ask us, and we will gladly help you.